CP Handler, MSW, LISW-S

CP is a client-centered, humanistic therapist who believes that it’s the human within the therapist that creates the space for recovery and self-actualization. CP’s holistic approach to treatment was born out of a deep appreciation for the mind-body connection. After working in vastly different populations, CP discovered early in her career that trauma and mental illness do not discriminate.

CP has worked in juvenile prison, methadone maintenance, inner-city homes and schools, residential treatment, foster care and private practice. CP is the co-founder of Atideinu, a non-profit organization that fosters social and emotional development in children.

After years of working as a therapist, clinical supervisor, consultant and trainer, CP created Resonant Therapies to help streamline all of these services and more.

Core Beliefs

  • The client is their own best expert. Your “bad habits” or current struggles once served the purpose of self-preservation and have allowed you to make it to where you are today.

  • People do not “self-sabotage.” They self-protect.
  • Each client has their own unique life with their own individualized lived experiences. Just as there is no “one size fits all” treatment for medicine, there is no “once size fits all” treatment for mental health.
  • The therapeutic relationship is at the core of any treatment and long-lasting change.
  • We are products of genetics, environment, and prior relationships. Learning about how our history has impacted us is a powerful gateway for awareness and change.
  • Addiction is ritualized comfort-seeking resulting from unresolved trauma.

  • Trauma is the real gateway drug.
  • The brain and body are designed to heal themselves when the conditions are right. The job of a
    therapist is to provide those conditions for organic recovery to occur.

  • Humans are social creatures with a core need for social interaction and meaningful relationships. This basic human need will often override reason and bring us back to unhealthy relationships.

  • Neuroplasticity shows that our brain never stops creating new connections and developing new patterns. As we learn and practice new thought patterns and skills, we are literally rewiring our brain’s functioning.
  • We will never be who we were, but with the right resources, we can continue to become more beautiful, whole and actualized selves.

  • The human capacity for resilience and triumph allows us to prevail through our darkest and most isolating moments.

Favorite Quotes

A compilation of my favorite quotes. Click tabs to expand. 

  • If you don’t heal what hurt you, you will bleed all over those who didn’t cut you.
    – Unknown
  • If you listen to your mental health when it whispers, you won’t have to hear it scream.
    – Dr. Christina Iglesia
  • What triggers you also reveals what you need to heal.
    – Unknown
  • You never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have.
    – Bob Marley
  • She didn’t know it couldn’t be done so she went ahead and did it.
    – Mary S. Almanac
  • Ships don’t sink because of the water around them; ships sink because of the water that gets in them. Don’t let what’s happening around you get inside you and weigh you down.
    – Unknown
  • Healing trauma is like doing brain surgery on yourself but instead of being put to sleep, you are waking up.
    – Michael Anthony (Think Unbroken)
  • A history of trauma can give you a high tolerance for emotional pain. Just because you can take it, doesn’t mean you have to.
    – Dr. Thema Bryant-Davis
  • Unhealed trauma overrides willpower.
    – Unknown
  • If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude.
    – Maya Angelou
  • While we cannot control what happens to us, we can always control how we react to it.
    – L. Lionel Kendrick
  • There is nothing more freeing than letting go of what could have been and embracing what is.
    – CP Handler
  • Mishaps are like knives that either serve or cut us as we grasp them by the blade or handle.
    – James Russell Lowell
  • The only remedy for regret is a lesson learned.
    – CP Handler
  • I never lose. I either win or learn.
    – Nelson Mandela
  • In my early professional years, I was asking the question: How can I treat, or cure, or change this person? Now I would phrase the question in this way: How can I provide a relationship which this person may use for his own personal growth?
    – Carl Rogers
  • The parent-child connection is the most powerful mental health intervention known to humanity.
    – Bessel Van Der Kolk
  • The opposite of addiction is not sobriety. The opposite of addiction is connection.
    – Johann Hari
  • There are primary choices in life: To accept conditions as they exist or accept the responsibility for changing them.
    – Denis Waitley
  • Your trauma isn’t your fault. Healing from it is your responsibility.
    – Unknown
  • Teaching a child not to step on a caterpillar is as valuable to the child as it is to the caterpillar.
    – Bradley Miller
  • I don’t know what I would do without coffee, but I’m guessing 25 to life.
  • Lord give me coffee to make the change I can and please give me wine to accept the things I can’t.
  • Coffee helps me maintain my “never killed anyone” streak.

Favorite Books

Influencers

Carl Rogers, PhD
Carl Rogers, PhD
Founder of Person-Centered Therapy
Francine Shapiro, PhD
Francine Shapiro, PhD
Founder of EMDR Therapy
Peter Levine, PhD
Peter Levine, PhD
Founder of Somatic Experiencing Therapy
Gabor Maté, MD
Gabor Maté, MD
Founder of Compassionate Inquiry
Jamie Marich, PhD
Jamie Marich, PhD
Founder of the Institute for Creative Mindfulness
Richard C. Schwartz, PhD
Richard C. Schwartz, PhD
Founder of Internal Family Systems Therapy